Time for my annual discussion on years and resolutions.
We have all been brought with the idea that December 31 to January 1 is the change of the year. One sits at that point and looks back at what one has done and looks forward to coming year and what they would like to do (or not do) in the coming year. One may not do this formally – even if no resolutions one does this in their head.
Similarly when one's birthday comes along the passing of time is in our head – how long do I have left? What do I want to have done by next year's birthday or what do I want to stop doing.
In the same way every day is the start of a new year. Various religious and cultural groups have a different date for when the new year comes than the Christian calendar – Jewish New Year, Muslim New Year, Asian New Year… As I do every year, I offer my Jewish New Year to all of you as a start date for changes in what you want to do in life as well as in organizing. Yesterday, Tuesday September 8, started the new year for us – it is considered to be the day that Adam and Eve were made.
Use this time as a chance to start fresh for a new year without needing to wait for January 1. No resolutions – just pick one thing that you want to change – one thing – and do it. Don't drop your jacket on the end of the staircase when you come in – hang it in the closet or on its hook. Don't leave the dishes to do them all at the end of the day (and then end up saying ala Scarlett O'Hara “I'll think about doing them tomorrow). Wash your dishes after every meal you have – or if you use a dishwasher put them in after every meal.
THOUGHT OF THE WEEK -
Whatever small thing you can do to make a change – do it - TODAY! Then set another day which will be next your next “new year” and plan what you will start to do then. Little steps add up to big organization and lack of clutter. It took years or decades to get to where you are - you will not catch up in a day or a week or a month, perhaps not even in a year – but little steps add up.
Like many others I have spent most of my life trying to deal with clutter and get organized. I am still on this journey, which by its nature will never end. I have read most of the books on organizing subjects and found none of them to match my problems. I want to share my efforts with others as a nonprofessional dealing with disorganization. Join me in my attempts to keep my life organized enough while still having a chance to enjoy it.
Thursday, September 9, 2021
ANNUAL LOOK AT WHEN IS THE START OF A NEW YEAR AND MAKING RESOLUTIONS
Thursday, October 1, 2020
TODAY IS A START OF A NEW YEAR - DON'T WAIT FOR JANUARY 1
It is time for my annual mention that a new year starts every day. Everyone decides at the end of the common (Gregorian) calendar year - December 31 – to make resolutions – to lose weight, to go back to school, and for most reading this list – to get organized, get rid of the clutter in the house and clean the house.
But every day starts a new year and can be used the opening to make a resolution or attempt to make a permanent change in our lives. Over the past week it was the start of the Jewish new year. The Jewish (religious) calendar starts with a holiday called Rosh Hashanah, which in literal translation means head of the year. We eat sweet things to look forward to a sweet year to come. It is followed 10 days later (which are called the Days of Awe) by another holiday called Yom Kippur (which means Day of Atonement). It is a period in which Jewish people look back at the year which has passed and pray forgiveness for their “sins” – large and small and then fast on Yom Kippur and spend the day (in normal years) in the synagogue praying and asking forgiveness of God – having already spent the 10 days asking forgiveness of those around them for sins, slights, and related against those around them. We also ask God to write us into the Book of Life for a good year to come (and boy do we all need that right now). Understand that we are making resolutions to be better in the year to come – same as one makes resolutions to do so for December 31.
The Chinese calendar's new year is between January 21 and February 20 – like the Jewish new year the day varies over different dates in the common calendar as the number of days in these calendars is not 365 as they are lunar calendar (12 months of 28 days each) with no annual adjustment for the difference between in the number of days between the lunar and solar calendars. (We have leap months instead of leap days, an extra month added every so many years.)
Similarly the Islamic calendar is a lunar calendar – in this case there is no adjustment for the difference between lunar and solar calendars so dates and holidays in the Islamic calendar as it rotates through it's 12 month cycle will annually fall at different times during the year.
Okay, I know – you did not expect a class in calendars, but my point in this is that one does not have to wait for January 1 to decide that THIS is when you are going to make a change in your life – any day of the year can be your new year to make a resolution to change something about your life and start getting rid of clutter and getting organized - and yes, even start doing better at the dreaded cleaning.
Pick something to start with – it may not be what bothers you (or your loved about you) the most, but pick something and start doing it – today. I won't say, as many do, that doing something on a regular basis makes it a habit, but instead each day deal with what you have picked to do. When you get to the point where you think you have it control – it is another day and pick something else to do.
Right now – in the middle of writing this post I have to run down to the laundry (I heard it beep) and transfer the clothing to the dryer and throw in our Covid-19 face masks to wash in a separate load. I will be right back, don't go away…. Okay, I am back.
So don't wait for January 1 – start now by doing one thing new or change how you do something now – today is the start of a new year (and of course you can instead start tomorrow if you need to plan – it is the start of a new year also). After all, you are probably home due to the corona virus pandemic anyway – might as well get something organized and get some rid of some unneeded stuff.
THOUGHT OF THE WEEK -
Our lives are very different than they were last year at this time. Take the gift (and yes, every day of life is a gift) of the time you have and do SOME THING with it. Work on getting organized – or ignore organizing to spend quality time with those you love.
As I posted last week, my husband has recently decided that we should take a walk at a local park. I would much rather be home getting work done, but I understand his need to go out and do something, anything. It is just the two of us (and all the others also out walking or fishing or sitting or playing) as walk – not briskly, but not just strolling around the park. Of course I have things waiting for me to do, but being with him and doing something he feels he needs to do is more important at this time. We have all been reminded of what a precious gift life is. Let us not waste our time here and do something for or with and spend time with those we love.
Thursday, October 10, 2019
GOOD GOD ANOTHER WEEK GONE ALREADY!
Picked up mom to go to the doctor. Drove there – we allowed an hour to pick her up and have a 15 minute drive. I was prepared with a touch screen stylus this time so I could check mom in (I don't show up well on tablets or cell phones) – still had to do it all twice. The place was quiet and not a madhouse as it had been last time and I started thinking that maybe we just picked up a bad impression based on the one visit. We were called about 15 minutes after mom's appointment time – I consider that normal and much better than the hours late last time. W (a nurse practitioner) came in. She had mom's file on the computer in front of her – she asked the same questions as last time – back to the start of mom's life. She tried to weigh mom – ummm, woman in wheelchair who can barely stand with walker – and she wanted mom to stand on scale which had nothing to hold onto. Did not work. Then she asked why we were there!!! Huh, this was set up on the phone call and the purpose of our driving 45 minutes to get mom and bring her there… I explained again about the scan. “There is no request for a scan on her record.” I told the entire story a second time. “No, no scan requested and I don't do scans only X does and she is only in on Wednesdays and sometimes Saturday.” My BP was rapidly rising. Apparently Dr B had not many notes on our appointment – then again he had take a call and left us to leave on our own so maybe he never got back to same. She entered into the computer that mom needs a scan and told us to make an appointment at the desk before we left. Well, that was an improvement, last time no one told us to do that and made a mess of trying to make an appointment for her. I stopped at the desk. We explained and also explained that we needed a different type of cardiologist (yes, cardiologist for her legs) as her pacemaker was checked at her facility and needs to be replaced within 2 months. They made an appointment for us with a different doctor whose office is at a local hospital. (And with the craziness in this office I have called the office to make sure that they do the procedure needed and to confirm the appointment.) We also made an appointment for mom to come back and have her legs scanned and then a separate appointment to have the doctor go over the test with us. My sister and I agree that mom's scan should be done at the facility she lives at and sister will discuss with mom and set it up as Dr B is BIL's doctor and mom has decided that he is god and she has to have test with him. At the end of the visit we got a print out with what had been done (nothing, but it does not say that), a list of her meds – that we gave them – and the upcoming appointments. After we walked out I realized that we had not received any papers like this last time – probably because the doctor never did the paperwork so no scan, and no request for us to make an appointment. Oh and the appointment with Dr B that would be a month wait when I called for same - 2 weeks. When I asked why the appointment was made with Wendy if she could not do the needed test and why same was not scheduled I was told that when one calls one gets a central booking office in Florida (about 8 or 9 states away from here) and they have no idea what they doing – great setup! We are not sure if this setup is a Medicare scam or just the worst organized doctor's office we have seen. Another day wasted.
We are to go tomorrow (Thursday) to take the RV to our dealer two states away about the battery problem – but more about this later.
Yesterday we had our car at the mechanic for an oil change and husband mentioned a funny feel when he brakes. Car needs transmission work. Husband was suppose to drive the car while I drive our RV so that after we dropped the RV off we could get home. Now it cannot be driven that far. Panic set in trying to figure out what to do. Then I remembered – we have the van also. The van has not been driven out of state at least since we have the RV if not before. I asked the mechanics and they say that should be fine to drive the van that far.
Today is the last day of the Jewish New Years holiday and the most significant/solemn holiday of the Jewish calendar. We need the car Monday to take mom to the other doctor – she could not climb into the van. What to do? We had planned on husband calling today (as I am not suppose to be doing everyday things today) and making an appointment for the transmission work. Our heads have been swimming and we have been going crazy for a week. If we don't have the car Monday either someone else has to take mom or we have to change the appointment. While we tried decide about making the appointment for the transmission work – husband had an idea that relaxed it all a bit. We would call Friday for the transmission appointment on Friday, take mom to her doctor on Monday and then have the appointment after same so all would get done – hopefully.
So this week – Monday was doctor for mom, Tuesday car was at mechanic, Wednesday was my holiday, and Thursday we are going out of state to drop off the RV. Another week gone.
When I got home after religious services tonight set up everything up in the van and the RV for the trip. Two sets of directions (I REALLY don't need same, but he insisted), spare shoes – it is suppose to rain tomorrow and we hope we get ahead of the rain and miss it, but in case, spare eyeglasses for me, walkie talkies (hopefully we will stay close enough together to talk back and forth – when we bought the RV and drove it home separately we were able to do so), emergency snacks for husband in case his blood sugar drops low, and so on and emergency stuff for him - like the snacks – have to be where he can grab them easily while driving.
Friday I will get to do everything I have not done all week (I hope).
THOUGHT FOR THE WEEK -
It is the start of a new year. It may not be a new year for you, but as I have mentioned in the past, every day is the start of a new year. Please feel free to use this ancient start of year to start working on your organizing and decluttering – even cleaning.
The craziness we have been going through started last year shortly after the Jewish New Year with husband's shoulder and arm going into terrible pain, luckily not the heart attack we feared – for what happened then - http://wheredidileavethat.blogspot.com/2018/10/i-was-finally-catching-up-bit-and.html
We are hoping for a good new year and a change in how life is going for us. I hope others have a good year ahead.
Friday, September 21, 2018
WHAT SHOULD YOU GET RID OF AND WHAT SHOULD YOU KEEP?
As I was talking about last week, much of what one needs to know about organizing we know. It is finding the time and pushing ourselves to do it that is the problem - at least for me. Basically one has to sort through what one has and get rid of what is not being used and will not be used and then set up what is left in an organized manner so that one can find what one is looking for quickly.
What to get rid of? A good question. Some of it is rather obvious - empty boxes of cereal for example. They are garbage. Almost empty box? Depends on how much is left - if you can eat it all while continuing to work - eat it and toss the box; if it is enough for a meal or two - use it up at meals and toss the empty box. In this case I mean for the cereal box to stand for anything which gets used up, but the empty container is still around. This week and last week I made a chicken stew that my husband loves for dinner. Problem is that the garbage pickup is on Monday and Thursday and I was making the stew on Monday last week and Tuesday this week and both times had to hold it all both times until Wednesday night when I put it out for Thursday pick up. The bones, skin and such have to be thrown out, but if I toss them in the kitchen garbage and they don’t go out right away, it will smell terrible. I can take the kitchen bag out to the can outside, but it really upsets me to put the bag(s) out only about 1/3 full. So, I put the chicken garbage into one of those plastic shopping bags that one gets at groceries stores, put same in the bowl I had used to hold the cooked chicken overnight (cooked the chicken one day, made the stew the next) before taking it off the bones and left it in the fridge. When it was time for the garbage to go out I added the shopping bag of chicken icky stuff to it and out it went. I then washed the bowl the bag had been in. I actually have left over stew from both nights. It can’t be frozen as it has potatoes in it and they never freeze well. I have the stews in two canning jars in the fridge (one from last week and one from this). I will hold them until the end of the next week - if husband has not eaten it by then (he really LOVES this stew) then it will go out that Sunday night in the garbage - it will not be allowed to sit beyond when it will be safe to eat.
Staying with the kitchen, some items are harder to get rid of. Husband will decide that he likes something - say a particular canned soup - and buy a lot of it. Then something will happen and it will not be eaten. Say, he decides it raises his blood sugar too much and he should only have it once in a while. The items sit........and sit.........and sit..........and sit.......and sit. Suddenly they are past their date and one cannot even donate them. It really kills me to throw out 6 full cans of something because it passed its date a year or two before - but out they must go. They are taking up needed room and if they are eaten by accident they may make someone ill. I have to check on some eggs we have in the fridge - wait, I will check right now - an entire dozen dated for June 16, 2018. Now what do I do? Normally I would toss the eggs. But here is a bit of info - when eggs pass their date and are sent back to the producer by the stores they are allowed to be repackaged and sent back out a certain number of times - gross right, but it is true. Eggs can be tested to see if they are still good and I will have to find the instructions on how to check them. Okay, per “The Joy of Cooking” if the eggs float in cold water they are no good. I will test them tomorrow and then throw them out if they float. We go through periods where we eat eggs or use them in cooking and will buy them - and then the period of eating them ends - see husband deciding he likes something and then deciding not to have it any more, above - I think he was making quiches with them and then stopped doing so - and they sit. Usually it only part of a dozen, which is left. In case you are thinking - what about breakfast? We wake up so late that we have lunch for breakfast, dinner for lunch and then a late night snack for supper, so eggs tend to be more of a dinner food here. I am going to test them..... Well, they will going out Sunday night with the garbage for Monday, the 3 I picked at random all floated - but, on the other hand, I was wrong - there are only 10, not a full dozen. We have a quart of milk in the fridge also. I know that is fresh, we bought it for a meeting of our reenactment unit last Monday - husband had volunteered to bring snack - oh that reminds me of something else, we are going to return an unopened package of cookies - we bought 2 different kinds for the meeting and apparently it was a chocolate mint cookie crowd, not a chocolate chip crowd. But no one opened the milk to use in their coffee. So I have to figure out how to use up a the quart - I guess we will be having diet pudding for snack a few times. We were lucky to find the quart - mostly it comes in half gallons and more around here, and the quart cost almost as much as the half gallon.
So - when one sorts through stuff one will find stuff to toss, stuff to check and decide if it should be tossed - now or soon after, stuff to return, and stuff to use up. If only I had some chocolate syrup for the milk, but if I buy same, then I will have a started bottle of chocolate syrup and someday in the future will be deciding if it should be thrown out or not. (Plus we just plain should not have the extra carbohydrates.)
THOUGHT FOR THE WEEK -
You know that you know what to do. Go through and toss the floating eggs and the long past date things (whether they are actually dated or not) - and the chicken stuff which has been stored until you can toss it. Get rid of the empty boxes or finish up what it is in them and get rid of them. Return items which are in good condition which can be returned. Use up the items that can still be used - before they have to be tossed because they are floating eggs. This applies in the rest of the house as well as in the kitchen - paints and makeup can go past their use time also, for example. The dress you bought for Sally’s wedding a month ago and then bought a different one, that you wore instead - return it if you can or donate it - unless you know that you can wear it for Harry’s wedding next month. And so on.
Thursday, September 6, 2018
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Huh? It’s September?
I am again reminding everyone that one does not have to wait for January 1 to start a new year, turn a new page, start organizing. Every day is the start of a new year.
When I was a child my year started in September. School started then - a new school year. The new TV shows came on for the year (later this became the start of the fall season) - a new TV year. And in either September or October, being Jewish, it was the religious new year also - the anniversary of the beginning of the world we were told.. The January 1 new year always seemed lacking in reason to me - what was starting anew - just the newly printed calendars.
It is a bit arbitrary. The new year used to start on March 25 - talk about crazy, Could you imagine March 24, 2018 being followed by March 25, 2019? This change of year changed at various dates in various places based on the religion practiced in the area starting in 1582. In the British countries, including their colonies here in America, the change to January 1 as the start of the new year was made in 1750. (And this led to all sorts of problems as there was also an adjustment to the calendar of 11 days at the time to correct errors in the prior adjustments by leap year days. If you were born on April 10, 1720 O.S. (old style), you would change your birthday to April 21, 1720 for example.)
The Lunar New Year is in February. The Muslim New Year occurs at a different time each year in the common (western) calendar although it falls on the same day of the Muslim calendar. It will vary over the entire year over time. (The common calendar is a solar calendar- it is based on the travel of the earth around the sun and how long it takes. The use of the different number of days in various months and leap year day keep the common calendar set more or less fixed against the seasons of the year. While there are a number of lunar calendars ( based on the length of the months at about 29 days in the time it takes the moon to travel around the earth), some of them will insert a leap year adjustment of some sort - in the Jewish calendar it is an extra month added a number of times over a cycle of years - the Muslim calendar does not add an extra month to adjust for the solar year and so its holidays move through the year over a period of years as there is an 11 day difference in the length of the year.)
Okay, now we are getting religion classes and history lessons. Back then people had less stuff to deal with and could keep it better organized. What is going on?
What I am saying (and I have posted similar in the past) is that the day we consider to be the golden time to start organizing (or doing something else) is a fairly arbitrary day. If today is September 5 - it will be a year until the next September 5, so it is also the start of a new year.
Make sense (I hope)?
THOUGHT OF THE WEEK
Since every day is the start of a new year, do not put off starting or doing something until January 1. Start NOW! Okay, maybe today is too soon, pick a day soon and start THEN! No more procrastination. No more New Year's resolutions left uncompleted. Pick one thing, just one thing and do it. Then do something else - one thing at time adds up.